The Theory of 21 days..

I told myself not to think bout him. But it keeps coming back from time to time. The only improvement is, i'm not crying for him anymore.. I told myself i had enough of it.

A friend told me that i'll need at least 21 days to get over it. Why 21 days? Why not 10, 11 or 12? Why 21? She never answered me. Guess i'll need to find out myself. Let's see where i'll be after 21 days.

Perhaps this is how it's formulated:

1st 7 days (or the 1st week)
This is "The Mourning Period" where i'll feel anger, upset, guilt and all other negative emotions. Hating both myself and him, blaming all the secandary factors that cost me the break up. Should be going through the crying to bed moments. Sigh..Tough week ahead then..

2nd week (day 8-14)
Time to accept that we've break up. I'll remember all the sweet and painful moments that i've gone through. I guess i will stop hating him at this time, perhaps even loved him back for all the experiences and lifetime lessons. For this, i'll name it "The Learning and Accepting Period".

3rd Week (day 15-21)
" The Getting Over You Period". I'll finally get over him. I'll live my life better than ever before. This is the period where i finally have the courage to hang out with friends and create new social ties with new people. Time to have fun again!

So. i guess i'll be fine in 3 weeks time.. Hmm.. interesting theory of the 21 days huh?

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