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Anger Management

M   : Aunty Sharon, I am angry now..
Me : Why? What happened?
M   : Daddy wanted to share my biscuits, I don't want to.
Me : What should we do when we are angry?
M   :.......
Me : Let's breath, and count.
M   : Ok Aunty Sharon..
Me : Breath, 1.... Breath...
M   : 2... Breath, 3..... Breath 4....(chuckle)
Me : Are you ok now? Are you still angry?
M   : No, its funny! (Burst out laughing)

13 days in to Movement Control Order, I have spent a lot of time with Matia for the past 13 days. This little boy is turning 5 this year, struggled with some TV addiction, but he did so well today. From spending time playing on his own, painting, trying to read (even when he complains it is difficult), eating lunch by his own without leaving the table, taking in the vegetables which he usually manage to pick out with his tongue, and yes... anger management.

We found that he was talking spitefully to both his parents on every small rejection he received. I showed him some clips from the Disney movie "Inside Out" two days ago, and explained that we all have emotions and it's really ok to express his emotions. But letting it to go out of control easily and throwing tantrum its a no-no. It was really surprising to have him coming to me, and told me that he's angry, and with some patience, we manage to get through it at that moment.

I know this is one of the good days and we commended his behavior and obedience. Not surprised if its totally opposite tomorrow. ;)

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